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Thursday, June 6, 2013


“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
– Alexander Graham Bell

This saying really hits me big time. Contemplating the totality of my life, I can say I’ve been a victim of my own fear and shame to have a serious and honest relationship. Being equipped with a clouded perception and memory-deletion mentality are not guarantees that persons who will barge in towards opposing walls, head on, ends up successful. It is not just about escaping and forgetting sad memories but learning from them, growing up amidst the consequences at hand.

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”
- Herman Hesse

For too long already, I’ve been cautious to create a better impression towards a special person to win back the feeling I’ve been longing for too long but ended up empty handed. Continually clinging to the fact that “love is sweeter the second time around” (damn that saying), I change to a person I’m not. I became totally engrossed to this person that I lost my time usually reserve for myself as well as my friends. My gestures were interpreted wrongly and even tag as somebody I’m not. I even brag to my friends that I’ve moved on but it’s not really true. Donning on a mask for them not to worry and be involve. Then suddenly all things worsen. My academic performance went poorly that I didn’t give a damn on how will I perform or what will be my grades. Not even studying enough for my upcoming board examinations. Plainly my life is revolving around this person, who doesn’t even give a time to look at me or ask how I am doing; an egocentric fool, a cheat and a big waste of time.

“Change is never easy, you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go.”
– The Wonder Years

The moment I realize such, it was almost too late. What the hell did I do? Stupid me! My bad! Were the first lines that popped out from my head. I quickly pick up my pace and embrace such imperfections. REFLECTING at such critical times and PRAYING were the only things I did. I cried, not because of this person but on how did all these things happen. Consequences, beyond my grasp and somewhat outside the context of my understanding, were the result of my selfish actions.  Now it is time to make changes, renovations of my doings and reconnecting bridges to my real friends. I give up many things already but nothing seems to be working, maybe it was not meant to be. I somehow manage to surpass all those ordeals and manage to have a great outcome. It’s not really too late to fix things just have the heart to change and the will to carry on. And the rest, as they say it, were history.

“There’s no need to miss someone from your past- There’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future”

It has been two years already and I’m a new person now. Such experience taught me to love oneself more and don’t engage on love out of simple attractions, lust or plain desires. Gauge your feelings wisely and learn to inhibit oneself as to not to get hurt thoroughly. Be yourself and have a strong support system. Choose someone with basis and love unconditionally.

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
– Albert Schweitzer

***Note: Originally posted on my old blog....

3:28 PM Posted by Unknown 2

Gift of Friendship

Being used to a stressful life in college, I often find myself confident or should I say assured that life after the academe would be a piece of cake. Going out from a four-walled institution would be easy and more fulfilling. The job-hunting issues would be a thing of the past but NO!!!! Sometimes learning from personal misconceptions isn’t a bad thing after all, it is an opportunity for a person to grow and be molded accordingly. To be gauge of one’s tolerance as to know how far can you take such rigged fate of reality.  Being aware of such consequences, I openly accepted my own doings and opted to have a more mature outlook in life. As I venture to the pitiful depths of my existence, along the way, I lost some things essential and gain favorable results; moreover I realized how important it is to value persons, who, in one way or another made a huge impact to my life. Persons whom I consider friends, real friends to be exact, instead of referring to them as mere co-workers and that’s when I discovered the true meaning of FRIENDSHIP.   

"Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same."

On a regular morn of October 19, 2009, my sister’s birthday, I went to what will be my very first job interview. The usual “look and be your best – attitude” overwhelmed me that I can feel butterflies on my stomach and tend to stutter a lot. With such mind-setting did I get the job? Nope, I don’t think so. Boom!!! Just like that, everything fell flat and I can feel my legs starting to feel a little weak or jelly legs as I like to call them. With every step I make, I reflect on what, when and where did I go wrong? For 45 minutes, traveling back to my house, I started to feel a little teary, almost shedding, yet I swallowed it up, often glancing outside the window to change my focus, hoping to lighten up my mood. The moment I reached home, I quickly went to my room and pour my heart out. Everything is a blur, this is insane, I said to myself, thinking that having a good academic performance is a one way ticket to success. For three days, I went on a hunger strike, not even mingling with my housemates. Surprisingly, they made the effort to cheer me up and gain something from them, the first gift of friendship, being there at your darkest times, the meaning of COMPANIONSHIP.

"Friends show their love in times of trouble...
One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives."
- Euripides (408 B.C.)

The time I noticed it, I was on my second and third job contract signing, with the latter being my first job of choice. For a period of more or less 6 months, my work became really promising. I manage my way to the top, making sure that every performance bears positive and above-average results. In a way, meeting real friends that who were always there in every step of the way. Then the day of reckoning came, evaluation “hell” week. Expecting much of myself prove to be detrimental and a confidence buster!!! I was not able to make it, with only a point missing, and was forced to take second and third evaluations. During such dreadful circumstances, my friends uplifted my already damage morale and made me look at the brighter side of life. Sound poetic but it’s true, they were not only there to help me but to show me that my imperfection can be used as an advantage. They were successful in making me change. Such friendly attribute that refers to HONESTY, is the second gift to expect. Honesty to tell your good points as well as your shortcomings not in a mocking way but in a challenging aspect to encourage you to be more from what you are today.  On the day of my third evaluation, I pass my resignation letter and demanded to have it approved immediately, kidding aside, I used my acting skills to win their favor. At that moment I felt free again, democracy in a more diplomatic kind of way.

"A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway."
- Fr. Jerome Cummings

Currently on my third job, but this time around I think I found some missing pieces from my previous jobs. Enjoying what I do and the friendship established along the way. I may have a bumpy start but was able to compose myself and pattern my preferences to them. It’s the time where all seems perfect and all you need to do is just to live the moment without inhibitions. Be yourself and live confidently towards your goal. My friends here taught me the gift of happiness. HAPPINESS as a result from an already solid foundation. Tested by time and ripened by experience, a stage wherein in maturity, sincerity and fun-filled fiasco collide to produce such perfect relationship.

"There is nothing worth the wear of winning, but laughter and the love of friends."
- Hillaire Belloc

Companionship, honesty and happiness equate to LOVE and that is what friendship is widely based at. Loving and lifting your spirits when you’re down and lonely. Loving the imperfections and embracing such without hesitations, which never fails to correct it. And loving you as to what you are and being happy to what you bring and cherish. It may root from various reasons yet its meaning is simple, “being a true friend unconditionally.

"We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over."
- Samuel Johnson

***Note: Originally posted on my old blog....

3:15 PM Posted by Unknown 2

Dum Spiro, Spero (While I breathe, I HOPE)

Sometimes life can be full of twists and turns. We are often bombarded of things way beyond our capacity. But still, we smile in every hurt, rise in every downfall, and confront every challenge with utmost courage. What is common to all of this is HOPE. Yes, you've heard that right, its HOPE.


Remember when Pandora, opened that box, which contained all the evils of the world. The entire contents of the box were released, but for one, HOPE. It signifies that opening Pandora's Box means to create evil that cannot be undone. What does this entails? It simply shows that for everything created, an outcome is expected. Evil strike at any given time and place but when we are overcome by it, we tend to evade, act as if we are useless rather than facing such turmoil. The fact of the matter is "we lack HOPE."

"Hope never abandons you; you abandon it" 
- George Weinberq

HOPE is an important aspect which embodies three important values in every person. First is FAITH. Faith to the Lord that for every trial we face, we must always remember that it's given for a purpose, an avenue for growth and a chance to change for the better. Faith to our strength, our ability and the support system, the people around us that will help us mold our persona and scold if the condition warrants it. We are not given trials of which we can't handle. Treat every trial as an inspiration and an opportunity. In every truth are lies under it, but behind every lies are facts that are waiting to unveil.

"What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise" 
- Oscar Wilde

The next value of HOPE is LOVE. Love others as we love ourselves. We all know that love comes in different ways, spoken in different tongues and showcased in different manners but all of these have its common denominator, and that is to protect oneself and others as well. If we love something or someone, we tend to pursue for it. Without HOPE, in the form of love, then we could easily say its superficial, an immature form of love or just infatuation per se. To love, despite all of the sufferings encountered, we still pursue for it, an unwavering, cunning and never-ending form of love. Such form embodies our HOPE to overcome everything in the quest of gaining something.

"Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up." 
- Anne Lamott

And the final value would be COURAGE. If we are tainted by fears and doubts, we tend to turn our backs away from what is perceived. We always look for our comfort zone because we are afraid to get hurt and fall. But mind you, learning by experience especially from our own mistake is a gift that cannot be taken away from us. Being coward is like shutting our minds away from such experience. A state of vulnerability we often blame to others where in fact it is of our own doing. The best way to face it all is by having just the right amount of courage paired with our undying HOPE. The expense of being hurt and failing is an experience unlike no other. It will teach us things outside the norms of our four-walled institution. It will not just teach something but it will show to us the reality of life. That it is not always perfect or turns
out to what we expect it to be. But for every failure and shortcomings, as long as we have the courage to stand, then everything will eventually fall to its proper place.

"Hope arouses, as nothing else can arouse, a passion for the possible." 
- William Sloan Coffin

***Note: Originally posted on my old blog....

2:49 PM Posted by Unknown 0

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Lesson 2: Move On and Let Go

My week was quite a fiasco; one minute it was delighting then at the end of the day it became tormenting. I thought that this week would be a bit different, like chalk and cheese, but in a good way; optimism is my aphorism for 2013 to start with. Sometimes people would give you pleasant news other would try to ruin them for unknown reasons just like in my case.

Things turn for the worse coupled with my meltdown that was not very pleasing to the eyes not to mention it triggered my sinus problems. Then a realization hit me, why snivel on it when you can ignore it. Most of us think that life is all pretty with rainbow frosting and sweet toppings but don’t you think you are being one-sided here?

Life is a balance between two opposing forces that must be kept under check. You can’t expect to be on the comfortable shore all the time. You love then hate, laugh at one point and cry at the next; these are the factors that make life complex yet worth living.

Let go and move on for your sake. Save yourself from stress and turmoil. Hope that there’s still something to look forward to. Failing is not a sign to stop but an inspiration to move on. Let go of the gloomy past and start embracing changes for your future. A bump in the road may trip you yet it will not make you fall.

There are three solutions to every problem: Accept it, change it and leave it. If you can't accept it, change it. If you can't change it, leave it.
4:09 PM Posted by Unknown 0

Healthy Tip 2: Foot Problems? Use Mouthwash!

 Always keep your feet on the ground. Well if you ask me, keeping those parts always in contact with the ground makes them susceptible to unflattering conditions. Conditions that are challenging and awkward, not to mention, comes with expensive treatments. But did you know that there’s a certain article at home that is quite effective and economical. I’m referring to your regular mouthwash. Mouthwash, with or without alcohol, contain a very strong anti-septic property that will help you cure those nasty foot ailments.

I have decided to focus on the home regimen for the top 3 foot conditions: Toenail Fungus, Athlete’s Foot and Cracked Heels.

Toenail Fungus

You Will Need
1.    Mouthwash (preferably with alcohol)
2.    Basin (preferably the one that can accommodate both feet)
3.    Lukewarm Water
4.    Towel
5.    Nailcutter or Clippers (optional)

1.    In a basin, prepare 50ml/200ml mix of mouthwash and lukewarm water.
2.    Submerge the affected foot to the mixture (Be sure to test the water temp before submerging your feet).

3.    Let it sit for 30-45 minutes or longer.
4.   Use the clean towel to dry it off. (Don’t include the used towel to other laundry items and never reuse it which will defeat the purpose of stopping the progression.)
5.    Do it once a day for three weeks, preferably at night time.
6.  You can start trimming the edges of the affected toe nail once you see it drying it out. (Disinfects clippers after every use.)

Athlete’s Foot

 You Will Need
1.    Mouthwash (preferably with alcohol)
2.    Cotton ball
1.    Do it after every shower and let your feet dry off totally before applying the mouthwash.
2.    Soak the cotton ball with mouthwash liquid.
3.    Apply it the soles of the foot first then move to the toes and the spaces between them. (You can use 2 to 3 cotton balls on each foot for the application. This will ensure total coverage of the surface area.)
4.    Let your feet dry off totally before putting on socks or shoes. (Moist environment are good environments for the fungal growth.)

Dry and Cracked Heels

You Will Need
1.    Mouthwash (preferably with alcohol)
2.    Shaving Cream
3.    Basin
4.    Lukewarm Water
5.    2 Hand Towel
6.    Cling Foil or Plastic Bag
7.    Foot Cream

1.    In a basin, prepare 50ml/50ml mix of mouthwash and lukewarm water.
2.    Soak the two hand towels on the mixture for 1-2 minutes.
3.    While waiting, start applying shaving cream to the feet, focusing more on the heel and the sole of each foot.

4.    Wrap the soaked hand towels to each foot and reinforce it with a cling foil or a plastic bag.

5.    Let it sit for 30-45 minutes (preferably 30 minutes).
6.  Unwrap feet and start scrubbing with the soaked towels or if you have a good pair of foot scrubbers then that would be better.

7.    Rinse thoroughly the feet and let it dry off completely.
8.    Apply a liberal amount of foot cream to moisturize it.
9.    Do it once a week, preferably during weekends.

For other helpful tips, here are the resources that you can browse to know more about this: 

4:09 PM Posted by Unknown 0

Grow a Beard?! Why Not?!?

People call it a goatee while others may refer to it as bush, whiskers, mustache  fuzz, or for some they might describe it as facial hair; all of which are synonymous to the notorious beard. Yes the beard, a collection of hair that grows on the chin, upper lip, cheeks and neck.

Men with facial hair have been ascribed to both positive as well as negative interpretations. Pleasant remarks would denote men with beard as masculine, higher wisdom, higher status and even sexual virility while the downside of it, especially in modern times, is the notion on lack of personal hygiene and loss of class and subtlety.

Whatever the interpretations are, I always wonder what it feels like to grow a beard. My dad used to have one and didn't see him as untidy so why not try it. At first I was a bit skeptical because I was used to having no beard and shaves on a daily basis. Basically, everything falls on a trial basis maybe I can consider keeping the look, totally committing to the whole facial hair stuff or have a change of heart. Either way as long as I am happy then I don’t see any problem.

I admit that, in the past, I have a lot of insecurities especially about how I look and what I want everybody to see me as. In this social strata where there’s a need to impress others, one’s physical qualities must be at par of other’s criteria so as they say; but not for me. I believe that being you is more satisfying than altering one’s self for other people.

REMEMBER: You have to create a track record of breaking your own mold, or at least other people's idea of that mold. 
1:05 PM Posted by Unknown 0

Monday, May 6, 2013

Healthy Tip 1: Going Loco Over Coco

"The two basic items necessary to sustain life are sunshine and coconut milk." 
- Dustin Hoffman

For the past few months, I’ve been going gaga for a certain drupe that is equally delectable and satisfying. The tree of life, as it is popularly known, that has been creating a buzz around the world. This is the infamous Cocos nucifera or the coconut palm as we all like to call it.

 The coconut is very abundant here in the tropics that people actually find many used of it. I for one had been avid fan of coco water and shakes. But, what is it in coconut that makes it healthy? Let us start with some helpful facts:

- It speeds up metabolism by 15% or 75 calories. 
- It is an abundant source of dietary fiber, minus the calories of course. Yes you heard it right ZERO CALORIES.
- Reduce one’s craving for sweets, taking away those extra pounds.
- A very good source of energy needed for that extra boost.
- Healing properties, prominently as an antibacterial, antiviral, anti-fungal and anti-parasitic.

Aside from consuming coconut water and juices, it can also be used as a home remedy:

- Feeling nauseated, why not drink a glass of coconut water. Replace those lost fluids, in cases of diarrhea and vomiting.
- For eliminating intestinal parasites, mix a glass of coconut water with a teaspoonful of olive oil for three days. (Bruce, 2008)
- You can disinfect wounds with coconut water; use the fresh one for this procedure.
- A tablespoonful of coconut oil can help ease up acid reflux.
- Constipated?! Why not try a tablespoonful of coconut oil to enhance proper bowel function.
Dry and crack skin can be treated by applying the coconut oil topically on the intended area.
- The coconut oil can also be used to treat nail fungus, by dabbing the oil with an applicator under the nails.
- Trying to get rid of those head lice? Use a liberal amount of coconut oil before taking a shower and rinse thoroughly.
- Coconut oil can also relive pain from rashes and swelling.
- To help remove or minimize unwanted scars and stretch marks, apply 2 to 3 tablespoonful of coconut oil on the intended area.

Phew… that is too much to take for one simple piece of fruit. So next time you see any coconut products in the shelf or the fresh ones, which I strongly recommend, try to replace some parts of your diet with this and start living healthy.

For other helpful tips here are the resources that you can browse to know more about this versatile fruit: 

- http://www.eatingwell.com/nutrition_health/nutrition_news_information/
- http://www.coconutsecret.com/coconuthealthsecrets2.html
- http://www.naturalnews.com/036028_coconu_oil_health_solutions.html
- http://www.livestrong.com/article/310663-health-advantages-of-coconut-water/
"Coconut Water for Health and Healing," Bruce Fife; 2008

12:37 PM Posted by Unknown 0